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The other night, while driving in the rain, I had an inspiration. I was thinking about my tendency to waste time when I could be doing something productive. I can remember times when I've played Minesweeper for hours while mulling over things that I knew I needed to get done. I usually keep a big list of things I need to do, and often I find it ignored, pushed back by my psyche while I spend time idly in simple tasks.

Number 1:
While driving along in the rain, contemplating this phenomenon, a flash of inspiration came upon me. I suddenly discovered that the reason why I tolerate this conflict is fear. It's fear of failure, or fear of not being good or smart enough to reach my goal. That's why I have spent so much time in useless activities, unable to begin a daunting task. But understanding the reason for this behavior is the key to triumphing over it and becoming a better person. The path to productivity and, in fact, empowerment, is now visible before me. Simply believing that I can make it to my goal, and that I am good enough and smart enough, gives the motivation necessary to make it through the long journey. It's exactly like Henry Ford said, "Whether you believe you can or believe you can not, you are right."

Number 2:
And the logical conclusion here also shows the reason why I choose to waste time with Minesweeper - I'm good at it. I know I can kick the crap out of that game any time, night or day. And I feel a wonderful sense of accomplishment when I beat the game, so it gives me what I need. It's much harder to feel this sense of accomplishment from 3 hours spent working on a project which will take 5000 hours to complete. But I believe if one keeps the goal in mind, and works earnestly toward it, he will find in the end that the final thrill of completion and subsequent rewards reaped will outweigh the necessary hours of labor.

Number 3:
I have also discovered an important trick for gaining motivation to start a project. I have often noticed that, when I write a new computer program, the hardest part is writing the first few lines. The task always seems so daunting when one only has an idea, and a big blank sheet (or screen) with no work. I think that when one is in this situation, it is often useful to begin by developing a plan of action, with a level of detail and complexity which is proportionate to the length of the project. This follows the advice of my mentor Tom, who once told me to "Plan the work, then work the plan." Occasionally the scope of an enormous project may require planning for months or even years. But if one spends time planning at the beginning of a large project, it not only gives a sense of movement towards a goal, but also may seriously cut down on development time by discovering problems before a large amount of work is done and re-working is necessary. I have found that once the plan is in place, it's much easier to work efficiently and consistently towards the final goal.

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